In early 2017, I used to be chastised by my supervisor for not smiling as a lot as I used to at work. She was involved that my “angle” was bringing down staff morale. In the meantime, I didn’t really feel like there was a lot to smile about concerning present occasions, particularly because the Muslim Ban took impact.
Rattling, I believed to myself, are Black women allowed to have unhealthy days?
Quick ahead to 2022 and mega rapper Megan Thee Stallion says sure.
Final weekend, Megan launched badbitcheshavebaddaystoo.com. The web site, which is known as after a line in her music, “Anxiousness,” encompasses a hub of psychological well being and wellness sources, together with websites particularly for Black individuals and the LGBTQIA+ group comparable to Remedy for Black Women, Remedy for Black Males and LGBTQ Psycotherapist of Coloration Listing.
Once I first began following Megan again in 2018, it was due to her sharp-shooting lyrics and sure, her body-ody-ody-ody. Right here was an excellent and exquisite Black girl unafraid to talk her thoughts and unapologetic about her curves and sexuality–my form of girl.
However after studying extra about her private story–beginning remedy after dropping each of her dad and mom; her promise to graduate faculty to make them proud; our shared love of fellow Houston native, Beyoncé–I fell much more in love along with her. The rapper has additionally by no means shied away from being weak and speaking about her struggles, displaying generations of Black girls that you just don’t all the time should have every little thing collectively and it’s okay to have unhealthy days.
In an interview final fall with actress Taraji P. Henson final fall for her Fb Watch sequence, Peace of Thoughts with Taraji, the rapper talked about her psychological well being and sustaining a optimistic outlook regardless of hardships.
“I really feel like proper now psychological well being is extra necessary to me, greater than ever, as a result of I’ve extra strain on me than I really feel like I used to have… once I was Megan, and I wasn’t as criticized and underneath such a magnifying glass as I’m now,” she says.
Megan’s resilience within the face of fixed adversity is admirable, and I want Black girls didn’t should be so resilient on a regular basis. As a result of heaven forbid if now we have an off day and really feel like lashing out on the world–nobody likes offended Black girls, despite the fact that now we have one million causes to be.
In any case, her new album, Traumazine, a fictional chemical that’s “launched within the mind when it’s compelled to take care of painful feelings attributable to traumatic occasions and experiences.” What Megan is doing by acknowledging she struggles with tough instances is making it protected for individuals from marginalized communities–communities the place discuss of psychological well being continues to be very a lot taboo–to do the identical.
Not solely is she making psychological well being sources accessible, she’s making certain they’re culturally related in order that they attain her followers (and hopefully numerous others) the place they’re. And she or he’s vehemently discarding the sturdy Black girl trope so many people have been raised to perpetuate.
By merely being herself, Megan is demonstrating that Black girls might be tender. Black girls might be offended. Black girls can have unhealthy days, too. And there’s nothing improper with that.